John Travers, FORTY SEVEN, is looking for romance.
“I’m on the lookout for my ultimate first date, my final first kiss, my forever love, my soul mate, and my best friend,” Travers recently wrote in a lengthy Facebook submit.
Travers is additionally fast to inform you he has the similar “desires, needs, wants, and emotions as any individual does.”
Sure, I’m in a position to have intercourse, and i am an overly affectionate, very loving guy and that i imagine in a number of cuddling and affection.- John Travers
The London, Ont., resident has cerebral palsy and lives in an condo on his own, supported through Cheshire Unbiased Dwelling Services. He calls for an individual enhance worker to get out of bed each and every morning.
on the get started of the yr, Travers wrote a Facebook publish addressed to “unmarried ladies.”
“I Am disabled with cerebral palsy. So for those who can’t accept that about me then we aren’t a match,” he wrote.
“I Am capable of have a personal life. Sure, I’m capable of have sex, and i’m an overly affectionate, very loving guy and that i consider in numerous cuddling and affection.”
Read Travers’s full Fb post here:
Travers has been engaged twice ahead of, however has been single seeing that 2018. In a Facebook message to CBC Information, he said he is bored with the only existence, that is why he “placed himself available in the market.”
“i believe so much of ladies see that i’m disabled and they suppose that i cannot have an individual life or be intimate,” he wrote. “Do Not let my incapacity or the fact that i am in a wheelchair fool you,” reads his New Year’s publish.
The media keep getting it improper, prof says
Jeff Preston, a professor at King’s College College in London, says people who have disabilities are often considered as being asexual.
“one among the explanations we don’t see disabled other people as romantic partners, possibly, is on account of the tactics we see disabled folks as kid-like or innocent,” said Preston, who’s additionally a neighborhood advocate.
“we’ve got a addiction of associating disabled people with another staff of people who are based and in need of care: children,” says Preston, who has muscular dystrophy.
“this can unquestionably cause problems while dating as, in my own revel in, while asking any person out, i have gotten the reaction, ‘Oh wow, I’m sorry I never thought of you that way.'”
The media portrayal of individuals with disabilities will likely be curious about folks being asexual, said Preston, pointing to ideas that they lose their sexual skill.
“for lots of, many people that’s, simply no longer the case.”
searching for a soulmate
Travers stated he is started looking for a partner partly because, “I hate going to bed by myself and waking up on my own.”
Jeff Preston, a professor at King’s College School in London, Ont., says, ‘we’ve a habit of associating disabled people with any other team of individuals who are based and in want of care: kids.’ (Kate Dubinski/CBC Information)
He shares intimate information about his disability and his personal existence in his Facebook publish, writing he wears “pull-ups for underwear by selection” and “feeds himself except it is messy.” He additionally says he does not have “any more or less different laptop” and will kind neatly on his personal.
He admitted he is a social smoker and drinker. As for what he enjoys, he loves track and is willing to get out to reside venues again as soon as the pandemic is over.
“So if there are any open, mature, and amusing unmarried ladies who are additionally performed with video games and BS … permit’s chat and see the place we cross from there,” Travers wrote in the final paragraph of his Fb put up.
Travers, 47, says cerebral palsy does not stop him from being able to have a personal life. (Submitted through John Travers)